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boundaries/ 边界感/ (biānjiè ɡǎn)

A: There has been a hot topic lately. Do you think lovers need to have boundaries?

最近有个热门话题,你觉得情侣之间需要边界感吗？

(zuìjìn yǒuɡè rèmén huàtí, nǐ juédé qínɡlǚ zhījiān xūyào biānjiè ɡǎn ma?)

B: Of course. Two people need to maintain their own limits in a romantic relationship, because at the end of the day you both are independent individuals with your own philosophy of life. There is no reason to change too much for one another.

当然,恋爱关系中需要保持两个人相对的界限。因为,毕竟你们是两个独立的个体啊,有自己的人生哲学,没有必要为了彼此而过多改变自己。

(dānɡrán, liànài ɡuānxì zhōnɡ xūyào bǎochí liǎnɡɡè rén xiānɡduì de jièxiàn.yīnwéi, bìjìnɡ nǐmén shì liǎnɡɡè dúlì de ɡètǐā, yǒu zìjǐ de rénshēnɡ zhéxué, méiyǒu bìyào wéile bǐcǐ ér ɡuòduō ɡǎibiàn zìjǐ.)

A: So what do you think about those who say that boundaries among lovers will have a negative effect?

那你怎么看待有人说情侣之间的边界感会造成消极影响呢？

(nà nǐ zěnme kàndài yǒurén shuō qínɡlǚ zhījiān de biānjiè ɡǎn huì zàochénɡ xiāojí yǐnɡxiǎnɡ ne?)

B: I think that boundaries in a relationship will actually make one grow, because when you come into contact with someone different than you, you will see their differences and then learn how to accept and appreciate these differences. I think that, in theory, this makes sense. 

我觉得恋爱中的边界感反而会让一个人成长。因为,当你接触到一个和你不同的人,你会看到对方的不同,并学习如何接纳和欣赏这些差异。这在理论上似乎也能说得通。

(wǒ juédé liànài zhōnɡ de biānjiè ɡǎn fǎnér huì rànɡ yīɡè rén chénɡzhánɡ. yīnwéi, dānɡnǐ jiēchù dào yīɡè hénǐ bùtónɡ de rén, nǐ huì kàndào duìfānɡ de bùtónɡ, bìnɡ xuéxí rúhé jiēnà hé xīnshǎnɡ zhèxiē chayì.zhèzài lǐlùn shànɡ sìhū yěnénɡ shuōdé tōnɡ.)

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